Abbey’s back on the blog as our guest today with incredible insight on a favorite topic of mine. I loved this hilarious and true take on finding your passion and how that clarity can fuel our life purpose and best self. Abbey shares how finding the answer to our life’s passion is far more simple than we think.
There I was, sitting in a booth with my family, stretching expectantly to see the front. Waiting, longing, to see her walk through those glorious doors, arms full of goodness, when I knew, with deep certainty, THAT’S what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wanted to be just like her.
She was the breadstick lady. At Fazoli’s. She would bring around a basket full of fresh, hot, buttery breadsticks, FOR FREE, to the people eating in the restaurant. And that was my first dream job.
Y’all can clearly see, I’ve never been a big dreamer…. I’m not naturally a visionary for the future self or life I want. My bridesmaids were going to wear baby blue and my house would be tie-dye and I would be the breadstick lady at Fazoli’s. That was the extent of what my middle-school self imagined my future to be, so it should really be no surprise that when I got to adulthood, I felt little to no passion or clarity or certainty of purpose.
In fact I used to cringe when someone would suggest the question, “If money and time and (basically reality) were not an issue, what would you do?” because I literally had no answer. I wouldn’t know where to even begin if I could do anything I wanted. Honestly, I probably would have been jealous of Elsa because even though she was going “Into The Unknown”
she at least had a haunting voice leading her in SOME direction!
If you’re feeling stuck in a similar spot, I want to encourage you and maybe help guide you in the pursuit of your dream. Author and speaker Jo Saxton wrote a book titled “The Dream of You” that is really beautiful and definitely worth a read. Toward the end of the book she suggests that, if you are having trouble naming a dream for yourself, look at what your first dream job was. She writes, “…there is something important about unfiltered, innocent dreams. Because even with their imperfections, our early dreams give us sign posts to our aspirations and ideals. They might even hint at what kind of life we were made for.”
As I was processing this idea with a dear friend, I told her that I hoped that wasn’t true and filled her in on the Fazoli’s story. I expected her to laugh along with me but she didn’t. She quickly engaged the idea and clarified how it actually fits me perfectly.
You see, to my young, carb-loving heart, the Fazoli’s lady wasn’t just bringing breadsticks. She represented excitement and hope and was bringing joy, warmth, and happiness to our table. And if I was able to set reality aside, I too would carry around a basket and hand out excitement, hope, joy, warmth, and happiness to everyone I meet.
That silly childhood dream of what I wanted to be when I grew up had more truth to my character and spirit than anything else I can pin-point. No, I didn’t grow up to become the Fazoli’s breadstick lady, but I have found a heart and passion for encouraging and empowering all people. More specifically, I want to pour into mamas with young children and am now developing a space where I can do that!
So what is it for you? What was your first dream job and how could that point you in the directions of your passion, purpose, and fulfillment in life? Take time to think on it, to process what could be the layer underneath the actual job, speak it to a friend, pray about it. You might just get your own haunting voice, pointing you in some direction, even if it is still into the unknown.
You are deeply loved!