Rick is a longtime friend of Becky and has over 20 year of experience serving as a trusted advisor to company owners, CEO’s and other notable leaders. He brings a wealth of knowledge and experience along with his passion for helping individuals and companies achieve maximum results. Rick and his wife Jan live in Texas and have been married for over 40 years. They enjoying spending time with their 4 grandchildren while leading ministry groups and other non profit organizations.
Things are constantly changing and navigating life right now can feel difficult, making seeing habits through much harder. Rick gives his take on for those that are struggling, how do they recognize they need to address their current thought process around habits?
Rick suggests a first principle framework. Starting by asking oneself the basics: What kind of person do I want to be? What do I want my life to look like in x number of years and how do I make changes to get there? What really matters in my life and the future?
Narrowing the Focus
Narrowing the focus is crucial. A great reflection question that brings focus is “What is the first thing or one thing I want to change or address right now that will help me get to the person I want to be?”.
Starting with one habit or change is the small but necessary stepping stone to get momentum in the right direction. If you want to lose weight, how much? In what timeframe? Tracking progress on the way to a goal or habit change is crucial to see progress and remain committed. Change seldom happens in massive ways overnight.
Everything Rick has learned about habits has shown that it is not advantageous to try and address many habits or changes at once. Stick to one instead of many. Take the single most important change that can be made and direct all focus and energy on that topic.
You can do anything you want to do but not everything you want to do, so what matters the most? Begin simply with intense focus and passion until you have a win under your belt, then you can move on to other areas of mastery or interest. Momentum and consistency are key.
The day that turns your life around starts with a deep desire for something you want in your life or something that you are deeply disgusted by. Rick points to a YouTube video by the late Jim Rohn, “the day that turns your life around”.
When the desire or disgust matters to you enough, you will take action to do something about it. Rick distinguishes between the decision to change and the start of the actual action that follows.
The importance of a partner in your goals or action can often be incredibly helpful. Establishing a support system in order to hold yourself accountable and keep motivated can be the difference between dropping a habit and having it stick forever.
Ownership is another important aspect of the equation. Doing things for the benefit of someone else, to please someone else, or fit in, among other reasons, are not great reasons to do something and will often be short lived. Taking ownership where you are committed to a goal or habit for your own reasons and rooted purpose will be the remaining driving force in times of struggle.
If one feels dwindling energy or motivation towards a certain goal or habit to which they are striving, review may be necessary. Perhaps go back and review why you originally thought this goal met the “most important” criteria in the first place and assess if it still fits that description in the current moment.