Amber Beaver is a wife, mom, owner of Thrifty Blessings Boutique and dear friend of mine. I’ve had the honor of watching her let go of the negative opinions of others over and over and lean into her best self. Her ability to overcome adversity, trust the process and pursue what’s in her heart is incredibly inspiring.
Rewriting Your Truth
Our brains are wired to tell stories which makes surrounding yourself with the right people key to eliminating our inner critic and rewriting our truth. Choose a core group of genuine people who will cheer you on and help undo the lies you’ve grown to believe. Give yourself permission to be vulnerable and open up to other people who encourage you to redirect your thoughts and lean into your best self. When you spend time with people who value growth and authenticity, you can honestly start to address the lies and rewrite your truth.
“I Am” are the two most powerful words we can string together that can build someone up or tear someone down. “I am not enough” or “I am terrible at this” can deteriorate our confidence and start our thinking in a downward spiral. But we have the power to flip the narrative and change our thinking. “I am beautiful” or “I am strong” spoken consistently over time to ourselves can help us let go of other people’s opinions and build our own truths. Our body and brain need to continually hear positive self affirmations to keep growing, moving forward and keep loving the process of where you are going and where you want to be.
“If we can change the way we talk to ourselves, we will change the way we talk to people, we will change the way we walk out the door,” Amber says. “And by doing so we will see this bleed over into all areas of our lives and make a huge, lasting impact over time”.
Overriding the Opinions of Others
It’s a journey and a process to override the opinions of others. As we move through different season in life we can start to collect the opinions of others that can feel like chains weighing us down. Opinions can steal our joy and stall out our journey if we don’t let them go. If we can’t choose our own journey, thoughts and truths and allow others to do that for us, we lose our uniqueness and our individuality. Stop letting people pleasing holding you back.
Sit down in a quiet space, close your eyes and think about all the moments in your life that have held you back. Face it head on, be honest with yourself, look for the lesson, if there was one, and let it go. This is a process and doesn’t happen overnight but is necessary to move forward and lean in to your best self.