I am so excited to share a new guest blogger with you all– Anna Cheri Simler. Anna Cheri is a genuinely beautiful and wise human, a wife and mama to two sweet babes, and an Executive Virtual Assistant. The perspective and insight she brings is unique and always leaves you something to ponder. She’s one of those people who, once you know her, your life is just a little brighter.
We live in a world that is always searching for the “next best thing” and in a culture that functions with a “the grass is always greener on the other side” mentality.
We can so easily see the strengths and best parts of those around us and without even realizing it, their strengths and best parts become the “next best thing” that we feel like we need to fill in our gaps and bring us contentment.
If I had that “quality” or “thing” then I could be the mom I should be. I could enjoy this season of life. I could handle my job and family life like I’m supposed to and I wouldn’t be so stressed or consumed.
If it’s not the beauty, personality, or success of someone else that we feel would ease our minds and circumstances, then it’s the bank account, time, or mental and physical health of someone else we crave.
But the truth is, those things aren’t going to give us the sense of satisfaction and fulfillment that we want…at least not long term. Because more often than not, the grass isn’t greener on the other side, the grass is greener where it’s watered the most.
And that’s a hard pill to swallow because watering the grass in front of us isn’t a quick fix. It definitely isn’t glamorous and it doesn’t seem satisfying in the moment. New life doesn’t spring up instantly after the first rain.
But it does come. It comes! Do believe that new life, even contentment, can be found right where you are?
It might take some tilling. It may mean having to face the dirt and mess. And it will probably involve waiting. But when we start watering the grass in front of us, new life will spring up. The grass can become greener.
And when it does, we learn to stop searching for the unneeded “next best thing” because we start to recognize that beauty and potential have been right in front of us, ready and waiting to come to life. All that was needed was a shift in our attention.
Investing and appreciating where we are and what we have will always bring us more satisfaction than wishing for what’s not there. So how can we do that?
I personally struggle with wishing my mental health was as “easy” or “good” as other people’s. But wishing for it has never helped it improve it. I need to talk through it, work through it, and tend to it so it’s no longer neglected.
Maybe there is someone at work that everyone doubts, when really they just need a chance to be believed in and shine. Investing in the professional and personal growth of those already on your team is never wasted energy and may yield more opportunity than you imagined.
Is there a friend you can lean on to help you let go of the shame and embarrassment that’s been gripping you because of your past, your body, or your struggles? Work towards appreciating the strength and purpose they carry instead of wishing them away.
Or possibly, there’s unnoticed beauty right in front of you that comes in the form of little humans. As my friend Abbey said “maybe focus a little less on what you can teach your kiddos & find what you can learn from them”.
Whatever it is for you, take a step this week. Try to pinpoint where you get trapped in the “grass is always greener” mentality. Figure out what it is that you constantly wish was different.
Then, choose to get your hands in the dirt and toil. Choose to invest in the life that’s been there waiting to be discovered and spend your energy finding the beauty in where you already are. You just might be surprised to find that what you’ve been longing for is already there, it just needs some uncovering.